I had the exact same thing happen, it is jealousy pure and simple.

all i can figure is either she is jealous of you and wants you gone and to show you before you leave that she is more powerful than you are. or else, her husband does not trust you and has brought her onboard to make sure you know who the boss is. either way, it is their company, and they can do whatever they want with it -- and the their website, too.

if you want to leave and have another place to go, then update your resume and start job shopping.

if you have no other place to go, contact a placement agency, and ask them to begin a soft search for you.

if you can't leave and must stay, then try befriending this lossey-goosey wife. get to know her, share conversations with her, become her confidante if she'll let you. i think if you befirend her and show you are submitted to her leadership (although inside you may think she's a kook) then she'll relax, let down her guard and may work with you instead of against you.

for example, in the case of the website, if she suggests changing it, sit down with her, offer to do it but ask her what she wants. design it to look like she likes, not what you think is good. remember, it is their website, not yours. if you will think of the two ofthem as your clients and you are their servant, then ask yourself: "how can i better serve them today?"

you want that paycheck, right? so, don't lose your customer (i.e., don't get fired). work to make them happy and show appreciateion that they employ you. even if you think they
stink, their paychecks are paying your bills.

ever consider that she just did not know how to get your website up? Maybe she is too stupid and was too proud to admit that she could not get it up so she chose an alternative build a website type service that walks you through step by step?

I work in the exact same type of place with a husband and wife and the wife is a complete psycho!!!!!!!!She thinks she puts in 12 hour days and all she does is run around ranting and raving all day and gettingnothing done!!!! Her husband needs to tell her to sit down and work but he is obviously scared of her!!!!

I think hiring a family member is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, they are usually trustworthy because they have a vested interest in making sure the company stays afloat. On the other hand, if they are incompetent, they can do a lot of damage to an organization before the boss either fires them or goes out of business.

I have seen family members that were a real blessing to a business. And I have seen some that were a curse. My uncle employs his daughter to run the front office and keep the books. Since she has been put in charge, he makes more money and the office runs more smoothly and efficiently. They had to fire an employee who had been with them for 12 years to get their daughter in. But once they did, they found the old office manager had been stealing from them and had abused some clients and some former employees.

An ex-friend of mine hired his nephew for his company. The nephew knocked up one of our administrators, destroyed a company truck while fighting with another driver and got busted buying and selling weed in another company truck.

Family employees can be a life-saver or a business-killer depending on how much power they are given. The lines get blurred between home and the office and if you are not careful you can unleash a monster. But if you pick the right one, they can really help you.