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My SUPER [bad] Executive Chef

State labor law requires that employees working over 20 hours a week for four consecutive weeks require employers to provide health insurance.
My executive chef had told me that a raise had been approved for me, but 3 months later, i realized that he hadn't been pursuing it. After my sous chef had asked on my behalf about my raise, the executive, who couldn't even talk to me himself, told the sous, "tell her that her raise is her insurance."
I've only cried out of anger a few times in my life, and this was one of them. The owner's sister heard of what happened and took matters into her own hands, set on talking to her brother and the executive that what was done to me wasn't right, nor was it legal.
The executive then called me a day later (not even talk to me in person!) saying that they were going to give me a raise. I had gotten emotional when they offered me not nearly what I was worth (which they did offer me higher a day or two later :D), and began to tear on the phone.
Over the next few days, I heard from two different workers what the executive had said behind my back about me crying and not being of value.
For weeks he wasn't able to look at me in the eyes and every time I passed by him in the small kitchen we all work in, he managed to be busy doing things. I received no talk about what had happened nor any greetings of hello or good morning.
Finally, Thanksgiving is coming up, so the bake shop is swamped with orders, where we have to go to other kitchens to prep. The executive hasn't told me anything of what is going on. On top of this, I'm left out of all the prep for these orders and one of the girls in the front of the house (whom I am on good terms with, so have no hard feelings towards) who has shown interest in being a future baker, was asked to come help with prep. A co-worker had told me that I was on his s-list, thus the reason for being iced out of preparation.
I think it unforgivable to be punished for his getting busted by the owners for his own stupidity and lack of communication and tact. He really is taking it out on me and even my sous chef agreed that our executive was being unfair to me. And to top it all off, he's still making insidious comments behind my back!!
My only comfort is that ALL of my co-workers and a lot of the front of the house workers HATE him as well.
He over orders on things we DON'T need and under orders on things we DO need, where we have to go to Sam's Club almost every day or call our vendors back to make special trips. The place is infested with roaches because of his lack of leadership in ensuring that the kitchen is scrubbed at night before closing. Many of the workers do qualify for insurance, but he doesn't ensure that they receive it. He's constantly making snarky comments both behind and in front of all his workers. He even has the nerve to say things like, "people don't understand me because of my superior intellect over everyone."
Our executive chef really brings down the morale in the kitchen. He has no communication skills whatsoever and doesn't do confrontation at all. He really doesn't deserve the title of Executive Chef.



what a creep! i do not have much experience working in a kitchen but your story reminds me of the one time I did, and the creepy chef that ran it. same type of personality, same type of behavior.

for some reason, chefs get promoted to leadership positions not because they show themselves to be good leaders but becasue they are good chefs. but just becasue you make a dynamite meal doesn't mean you know how to treat people, organize things or communicate effectively.

your chef is in way over his head, and is suffering with a superiority complex. the sooner they get rid of him (or demote him) the better. this is a personality problem that will not work itself out over time. this guy will do a lot of emotional and professional damage to people around him until he is fired and humiliated.

1. reports need to be submitted to health authorities concerning the lack of cleanliness in the kitchen.

2. what he has said and done towards you and others need to be documented and submitted to his superior anonymously. he is setting them up for a lawsuit or an investigation by the eeoc or dept of labor by running his mouth. you are a protected minority (being female) and as such wield tremendous power in a courtroom among regulating authorities.

3. surely the accounting department is concerned about the over-ordering and under-ordering requiring frequent trips back by vendors -- that adds on additional freight costs to the overall bill.

concerning you - i encourage you to be a professional. do not cry if you are overlooked for a raise or promotion. be an adult. children cry when things don't go their way. adults discuss matters until they are resolved. Or, in the event they cannot be or will not be resolved, then adults leave, and do not return. there is no need to get emotional and cry in person or over the phone.

for this boss, your weeping sent a message of weakness to him, and -- as a result -- he lost respect for you as a professional and as a coworker. he no longer trusts you to be able to handle the stress of working in his kitchen. this is the reason he is freezing you out.

true he sounds like a jerk. but you have damaged your credibility with him to the extent that it probably would be better for you to find work elsewhere.

i wish you well. i am sure you are good at what you do.
hr guy on 27 November 2009 17:01:54
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