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So much for being a team player

I have always believed the idea of being a team player was best and have tried in every job I have had to get along with other people and try to share my knowledge with anyone needing to hear it in the hope that their performance would improve overall. My thought was: "shared understanding leads to better communication and more productive work." I am not sure if I read that somewhere or just made it up but it encapsulates my philosophy toward team work.

One year ago my boss gave me an assistant to work with to help me in my HR responsibilities. She is a bright young lady, eager to learn and has a good work ethic. I talked with her about her future and we determined that she is sincerely interested in HR work. I began pouring my knowledge into her, teaching her what I knew of the business.

Recently when our company's work slowed down, my boss came to me and started asking me to lay certain employees off. I did so. He came back and asked for more lay-offs, and again I did so. Then he came and asked me if I could afford to lose my assistant. I told him I could but it would be a big loss to the company because she is so helpful to me. Later he returned and asked me if I had to pick between her and a receptionist/admin to assist me which would I pick? I weighed both ladies helpfulness and productivity and determined my assistant by far was the better of the two employees. He asked me how I came to my decision. I gave him a detailed comparison of the two. In the end he concurred with my finding and asked me to lay off the receptionist/admin. I did.

In meetings we have had since, he has asked other managers: who in their departments they can afford to do without? None of them could lose anybody. I was asked if I could do without my assistant. I told him I could but I preferred not to because she is a triple-threat: she is a great receptionist, she is a good administrator and she is learning HR. In fact, I am the ONLY manager in the company who was cross-training my direct report -- which is one of the things he expects of ALL of his managers.

I reminded him I was cross-training her, and I also bragged on her progress -- all in an effort to solidify in his mind how important it was we hang onto her.

I knew something no one else knew. She is a single mother of a 2-year-old boy. Her boyfriend recently left her, and she gets no support from him, his family or her family. Having been raised by a single mother, and knowing there were other employees we could afford to do without, I could not bring myself to cut her loose and throw her out to the streets during the Holidays.

So in a need to cut our budget, and seeing how good she was doing as my assistant, he decided to lay me off and put her in my spot!

Now I am unemployed and seeking new work. Mainly because the conomy is dragging and work is slow and also becasue I gave away a lot of my knowledge in an effort to help her, and she makes less money than I did. By the way, I was the only manager in the company who made under $50K, and I was the only manager who was not only cross-training my subordinate but also developed a cross-training plan none of the other mangers ever implemented though they have been told to several times.

I have no regrets about training her. I would do it all over again if I had the chance because I have added something to her life which will make her more valuable in the future either to that company or another. But I would not have bragged on her so much. I should have bitten the bullet and offered her up for layoff when he asked me to keep my job.

What I have learend from this experience is that cross-training is a double-edged sword: if you help those under you learn your job you run the risk of losing it to them. If you help those under you learn your job theyc an help carry some of the load.

New philosophy in life: don't share what you know unless you have to.

New philosophy toward team work and cross training: being a good team mate does not mean you get to keep your job. In fact, the three men who argue and fight the most, who refuse to work well with anyone in the company still have their jobs! None of them cross-train their employees, none of them share their knowledge, and ALL of them have their jobs!



Seems like we working stiffs need to stop thinking like "team players" and more like poker players to survive.
Anonymous on 08 January 2010 01:54:52
you got it. I'm a new me.
HR Guy on 08 January 2010 13:56:11
This happened to me too. After few months, they asked my help to clean the mess and take the job over again. That woman was moved somewhere else. It's just very late that i knew from the boss that it was her who motivated him to kick me so she can take my position.

But my story is a little bit different. I trained her, offering my time, energy and resources to make her shine regardless of the many negative remarks i got from our boss about her. In a year, i made of her a different person and everyone started to like her job.

At this point, instead of thanking me, she made her very nice act and rewarded me by editing an important report that i spent days preparing it, messing it up and deleting the only correct version from the server.

The report was sent to our department with the wrong figures. Senior management complained, i was blamed and at that moment she emerged as the savior, sent my report that she saved on her Desktop to the boss as her own effort and work. At this point, i didn't know about her going to the boss and sending that email with my report that i prepared. All this happened behind my back. That time, i thought that i really did mess the report and that she worked with the others to report accurate input and that is why they preferred her to me and that's why she took my position..

I knew all of this after few months of giving her my job for being the heroine who saved them "actually, who fooled them" and this explanation was the boss's sorry for replacing me and for blaming me for something i did not even do and to some extent that's why i accepted coming back to my old position.

Life is too funny, sometimes!!

Though, i accepted doing this favor to them...i don't feel safe until this moment...

That woman, i still say hi when i see her but we don't really talk because when i faced her with these facts and the email, she denied and tried to make up a new story making the boss looks like a liar.

Thanks for sharing your story...
Butterfly on 09 January 2010 12:22:17
Thank you for your story, Butterfly.

You have to walk a tightrope when you are told or asked to cross-train your coworkers or direct reports.

On the one hand, I want to do the right thing. I want to make the boss happy. If he asks me to teach someone else in the company what I know, and I don't, and he finds out, I have not done so I am setting myself up for trouble with him. If he does not find out, I am safe. But I will always wonder when someone is going to ask the boss if I or the other managers are teaching their co-workers their jobs.

I guess if he is the kind of boss that follows up and checks on things it is best to show you are teaching them something. Maybe a few, small, little things that you would not mind them knowing.

But I now believe that it is suicide to share everything you know. I did not share everything I know with the young lady who is now working my old job. I did not have time to do so. And she did not connive to take my job from me. The boss dumped me and elevated her due to economic reasons. She cannot do my job and has told me so before. She liked helping me and cried the day I lost my job (last Monday in fact).

What I learned is that even if you do what your boss has asked (like train your subordinates to do your work) which I did and was not rewarded for it, and you find out other managers have deliberately disobeyed (and they are not punished for it) it is best NOT to help your direct reports because all you are doing is giving your employer cheaper options than you.

My wife is a school teacher. She said when you give a class instructions and one kid obeys and the others do not and you kick that kid out of the class (for whatever reason) you enforce two negative lessons:

1. if you obey you may get kicked out of the class
2 if you disobey you get to stay and play longer

First, I should have been rewarded and commended publicly for doing part of my job -- which was to cross-train my subordinate. Instead, my boss figured: "If the job is that easy that he can teach a 20-year-old lady how to do it in 5 months what do I need him for?" Ergo, I am out and she is in. Of course, the fact that she is out of her league as regards doing the job RIGHT has not entered into the equation.

Secondly, I should not have trusted him. He told me my pay was secure when we started cutting salaries. I went away for Christmas and came back to lower pay.

"Sorry. Our situation is worse than I thought. I should have explained that to you and I did not. My mistake."

I should not have trusted him.

He also told me even if we dropped down to 10 employees (current number of workers: 77) I would remain active with him because of my "incredible worth". This gave me a false sense of security and freed me to teach her a great deal because I had no fear of losing my job.

Last Monday he flushed my "incredible worth" down the toilet.

And kept men onboard who are earning twice as much as I was. Has his financial situation changed? No. Then why keep them if they are so expensive and dump the cheap HR guy? Because he desperately needs what they do. There is no one in the company who can do their jobs. Why not? Because they keep their secrets and train no one.

So the fat cats who disobeyed are still in the game. They elected not to trust him and it is has paid off for them. I tried to be a team player and am now searching for new work.

Lesson 1: don't trust the boss
Lesson 2: don't give away your trade secrets or methods
Lesson 3: be willing to lay off your subordinates during the holidays if the subject is broached.

I wasn't ripped off by the lady I taught. I was ripped off by my boss. But being unemployed is being unemployed no matter how you look at it. I am out and she is in. Unfortunately for her she is about to be overwhlemed. And I am moving on to something bigger and better!
HR Guy on 09 January 2010 23:56:54
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